I was really inspired by this TED talk.
Today, I watch this TED talk about body language by Amy Curry. At first, I don't really have any interest in it. However, it got my attention when she speaks about how body language can affect not only your audience but also yourself.
It got my interest because I know body language can affect your audience. But, body language can affect your own self is new.
It's also relevant for me. I'm a shy person. Back when I was still in primary school, I was a very shy person. I don't even participate in school discussion because I'm too shy to talk. But I realize how important it is.
Because of that, I want to change. I want to change myself to be more confident, talkative and more friendly.
Watch it first.
She talks a lot on body language. But, I just want to focus on this particular section of her speech.
In the video, she says that she had an accident and makes her IQ decreased. It shocks her because she identified as a smart child before.
That's difficult. When you know that you are smart and confident in your own ability and then overnight you become the opposite. You lost the ability that make you confident. It feels like your identity was taken away. That's sucks.
She also speaks about her experience when she was in the university. She feels that she wasn't supposed to be there, in the university. You know, when you are not confident in your own ability, usually you might feel inferior compared to your friends. But, she changed it. How?
By faking it.
She told herself that she can do it. She feels that she can't do it, but she fakes it by thinking she can do it and she supposed to be there.
My own experience
For me, it's a bit different but similar. I also try to change myself by telling myself. However, not by a fake thought like I can do it but by mimicking some people that I know that really good at what I want to do.
For example, if I want to be great at a presentation, I try my best to mimic how the person that I thought was great at this. Just try to execute just like the person do it.
It's not perfect. Sometimes, I'm just too nervous that I can't think of anything at all except just to finish the presentation as soon as possible. So, you might guess, my performance won't be that good.
But, I supposed I will try it. I mean, if I can improve because of that, why not. Mimicking someone sometimes works. However, if I don't really get a clear image of a person that I want to be, I have to improvise how to do something on my own.
Also, I can't really say that my own ability is improved by mimicking someone. I mean, as long as I can picture how my model person performs in my head, I can try my best to mimic it. But I'm quite sure that only improving my temporary performance, not my ability.
So, the next time I do a presentation without any clear image, I won't perform well. Maybe it just me, not doing any preparation.
Anyway, I hope this TED talks is also useful for you.